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The Grind

Chris Marlow —  October 18, 2012 — 8 Comments
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The Grind: Daily walk for water.

That’s how I feel these days. Life seems like a grind to me. The work is intense, the to-do list is long and at times, it all seems overwhelming and not much fun at all.

We’ve all been there.

Fortunately, I love what I do, and this is such a key to living a “fully alive life.” No matter what you do, the grind will always be with you. You cannot escape work and seasons of stress. However, if you love the work you do, then it is much easier to stay the course, do the labor and get meaningful work done.

The real question is then – how do we deal with the grind?

1) Calling – You occupation needs to be connected to your calling. I realize that this is not always reality. But long term, I’m talking decades of work; it’s essential for you to do work that matters, that is connected to your call and gifts and that gives you energy and life.

Of course, all work can be beautiful work, but not all work is intentional or connected to the gifts God has given you. If you find yourself doing work and it’s not connected to what you feel called to do, be patient and bridge the gap. This way, you can find your life’s sweet spot; you can connect your life-long calling with your day to day work.

2) Workload – Sometimes we shoot ourselves in the foot. We say “yes” to too many projects. Our work load becomes so fierce that we don’t feel like we have room to breathe. Here is what I know: tired, stressed and overwhelmed people rarely create beautiful work consistently. No doubt, there is a time to create and a time to execute. The grind usually happens when we are executing the plan. However, to do great work over and over, you have to remove yourself from the grind. The best way to do that is to finish the work that is causing you to stress and then take a step back, breathe deep and allow new fresh creativity to come forth. Learning to say “no” is a sign of maturity and focus.

3) Boundaries – I think people get burnt out and do really bad things when they don’t set up healthy boundaries, especially in seasons where the the grind is intense. Sabbath, rest, time with family and friends and alone time to think, pray and process are vital and necessary, even in the midst of the grind. Burnt-out people do so much damage, and people usually burn-out because they failed to set healthy boundaries along the way. Boundaries need to be legit and clear. What time are you leaving the office? Will you work on the weekends? How much will you travel? It is easier to set boundaries, when you have some accountability.

4) Trust – Let me get a bit spiritual here. I do believe we tend to make a huge mistake when we think we can do everything on our own. I constantly remind myself that I can’t save the world, I don’t have all the answers and ultimately I’m not in control. I have deep trust that God is my Shepherd and that He is in control of all things. Each day, over and over, I’m whispering to God to give me strength, wisdom and hope. I do not want to attempt to do life and face the grind without God.

Legacy and longevity are like fabric woven together. You can’t separate the two. So, if you are in a season where the grind is intense, I hope this will be helpful and will remind you to lean into your callings, balance your workload, set some healthy boundaries and trust in God to give you strength and wisdom along the way.


What are you waiting for…? I think we all have a dream in our hearts, something that keeps us up at night. A never-ending passion to do something remarkable with our lives, something that will make the world better, because of our dreams and passions.

So what are you waiting for? Why won’t you move forward and try to capture your dream? If you don’t pursue it, the rest of the world will be lacking. Something good won’t come alive for the rest of us to enjoy!

Why are you waiting to start that that business, or non-profit? Why are you waiting to take a trip oversea’s and serve people? Why are you waiting to paint that picture, write that song, create that website? Why are you waiting to be more generous with your finances, serve more people, love deeply?

Why are you waiting to live a life of more significance?

What are you waiting to fulfill your destiny, serve humanity and be great.

You’re waiting because your scared, fear has gripped you and the unknown is taunting you.

What if you fail? What if you go broke? What if life gets crazy? What if you have to actually trust God…?

but…

What if you succeed, what happens when your destiny becomes real and the world is better because you chose to pursue your dream, create beauty and serve people through your gift and passions.

There is only one way to find out…So, what are you waiting for?

What is your dream ______________? Why are you waiting ___________? When will you start ____________?


Faith is a Journey

Chris Marlow —  July 13, 2009 — 2 Comments

Last week I wrote this post on faith and doubt. Moving can be a big step, so can changing jobs, living for Jesus and trying to make the world a better place. Basically, change is hard, it requires a mixture of faith, wisdom and risk.

Our biggest fear in moving was renting our house. Needless to say the Real Estate Market is not doing great and we were scared because of that fact. It’s really the biggest reason we chose not to obey God sooner and mover forward quicker.

So, once we made a decision to move to Raleigh, we put our house on the market. Long story short we rented our house in four days. We did not use an agent, so we had to pay no fee’s, we were able to secure a two-year contract and our renters SEEM very cool.

Here is the funny thing, God came through AFTER we obeyed. We already started walking the plank..we chose to leave with or without our house rented come August 1.

Its easy to pray for God to open doors before we move forward. But the greater blessing is journeying with God through the darkness…then He reveals a light, creates a pathway and our faith is encouraged and strengthen, and we can worship Christ in a much deeper way!

My family is more confident now that we made the right choice, because we see God moving in ways that cause us to rest in His love, strength and power, not in our own wisdom!

Faith is truly a journey!


Faith.Doubt.Trust

Chris Marlow —  June 29, 2009 — 2 Comments

Sometimes in life the journey can be very hard. Necole and I have really struggled with our future in Austin for quite sometime. Now, don’t get me wrong, Austin is an amazing city, one-of-a-kind for sure. I love the people, the food and culture. I have lots of family, life-long friends and I also have so many great ministry friends, yes I’m so blessed!

But, I knew deep inside it was once again time to move forward and capture something long-term. Anyhow, I’ll get into that later. What I’ve learned the past six months, is my lack of ability to trust God. I felt, “called” but I did not want to fully have to rely on God. I wanted a clear pathway I could walk-down. I wanted God to remove all elements of faith, but deep in my heart, I knew God was not going to do that. It seems hard to differentiate wisdom and faith, it’s a thin-fine-line no doubt.

See, one of the issues with us moving is Necole’s job. She has a large clientele in Austin, and it’s growing all the time. Going to Raleigh means we start at ZERO income for her: holy snap krackle crud…I on-the-other-hand run a multi-hundred dollar organization called HELP. I get paid every month, and see the thing is, I’m not sure how I get paid :-)

On-top-of-that, I’ve been offered a good chunk-of-cash to start a church in Austin. So, basically, we are throwing Necole’s salary out-the-door, leaving money on the table for church planting and we are going to simply rely on my salary until we get established. Which most of my friends call my salary part-time btw!

Now, shall we add one more complex piece to this puzzle? OK, why not…We also have to rent out our house and we can’t rent it for what our mortgage payment is. (Texas taxes baby) So we must find a good renter and still pay a little to cover our cost-stellar!

Right now we are comfortable, we have plenty of cash, nice house, great friends, live in a great city and I have a great team working for HELP. Pretty cool eh?

Who knows, maybe this will be a colossal failure, maybe HELP will go under, maybe will lose our home, maybe I won’t have a lot of food to eat or money to waste, maybe maybe maybe.

Or, maybe I’ll get up every morning and seek God for help…Maybe I’ll spend money more wisely, maybe I’ll become more focused, maybe I’ll see some miracles, maybe Christ will reveal himself in ways I can’t comprehend. Maybe more orphans will have a home, food and community because HELP is thriving in Texas and the Southeast.

And no matter what, God’s grace is always bigger than my mistakes.

You can’t have faith without doubt, you can’t learn to trust God deeply when all is safe, you have to risk sometimes, somewhere…And, you also have to use wisdom along the way!


Pic taken by Studio 914

Being a dad is the best thing ever. By no means am I photogenic, but I think this picture represents the two of us well. Kenzie is a miracle child. The doctors told us she was most likely going to be born with spina bifida. For 6 months we worried about the outcome, stressed about the possibilities and still knowing that life belongs to God and blessing come no matter the health of a child.

Everything worked out perfect. Kenzi was born seven weeks early and spent 3 weeks in ICU. Necole was on bed-rest for six weeks. The day we found out about the high blood issues, which worried the doctors and pointed towards spina bifida was the same day Necole was boarding an airplane, her brother was in an accident and passed away seven days later. That happened six years ago this month-his name was Shane…he was like a brother to me…we will always miss him and no, time heals nothing. We just carry the thoughts, burdens and pain with us.

For instance, my mom passed away of cancer 15 years ago today. She slipped into eternity as I held her one last time. She was my hero, her love for me was unmatched.

Those moment of sadness is painful, but they are also valuable-heaven awaits one day, a reunion with joy will come. This reminds me to live life to the full, do good and serve God. This is why I never hold grudges, forgiveness is automatic and I try to truly love people to the best of my ability!

But life is good, there are moments of joy and happiness, moments of sorrow and sadness, life is mixed with both of those emotions. So we find peace no matter the current circumstances. And occasionally we need to step-back and reframe our lives and remember the blessing that we have.


Thoughts on Risk

Chris Marlow —  February 23, 2009 — Leave a comment

Risk is a thought that is hard to grasp. For some of us we take to many risks and lack wisdom, others of us take to few risk and lack adventure and faith. Liz and Blanca shared this yesterday when they spoke at their church. I thought you might find it valuable. 

10 Risks

Risk entering the story rather than just watching from a distance. 

Risk your life convinced of the truth of the resurrection.

Risk supporting your spouse or love one in the chances God leads them to take. 

Risk interaction even after you have been hurt. 

Risk the impossibe as a community. 

Risk seemingly ridiculous actions when God’s voice says you should. 

Risk trying your crazy ideas and encouragin others in theirs. 

Risk community to pursue God. 

Risk comfort and the known for service. 

Risk the consequence of loss and pain in obedience.

Living by Faith

Chris Marlow —  February 18, 2009 — Leave a comment

I got an email from my pastor friend in Zimbabwe. The email was short, filled with lots of real pain. My friend was grateful that we are standing with him in prayer as he watches his country dissolve into a place of chaos and violence. Yet, he is filled with tremendous hope and vision. He runs two orphanages already on faith and key partnerships. But he is hoping to build another orphanage so more kids have a place to call home. This is what he says:

“Please continue in prayer we still have our rural home dream and we are working flat out toward it.”

This guy can barley feed and clothe the current orphans. At times he lives week to week or month to month. Yet he’s moving forward to help more kids find hope and love through the gospel. Such courage and resolve!

Faith & Politics

Chris Marlow —  September 4, 2008 — 1 Comment

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